Dissolving the Disappointment of Divorce

D.I.V.O.R.C.E.

Don’t let your children suffer because of the incorrect decisions and choices YOU Have Made

Where Do I Go From Here?

You and your partner have decided to go your separate ways – so where do you go from here?

Letting go and stepping into self confidence

Divorce creates a situation where the partners are all of a sudden in a place of uncertainity as they learn to let go and become responsible for all their own decisions. This can be a very scary, frightening experience, more often than not creating self doubt in their ability to succeed or get things done right.

Are you experiencing

• anger
• frustration
• resentment
• guilt
• jealousy
• disappointment
• despair
• distrust
• disrespect
• depression
• feelings of loneliness, failure, regret, rebelliousness, or
• have your just had enough?

What did I do wrong?

There is an experience of the grieving, the guilt of what did I do wrong? Or the blame stage – it was all their fault. The mind becomes full of toxic thoughts that contaminate what was once a loving relationship and now there is so much criticism and blame that everything becomes very dirty, unresourceful and a place of distrust.

Who are you blaming for things not working out?

How is the Blame Game working for you?

Is it making you feel good?

No – so what can you can do to stop blaming and start living again?

Are you creating hell for yourself, your family or your ex?

You cannot forgive what has happened and been decided, you feel like rubbish so why should he/she feel any better than I do?

I am going to make it as hard as I can for him/her? They are not going to have it easy – no way!!

How is this working for you?

Is this how you want to feel for the rest of your life?

We only get one go at life – start living and enjoying yours now …move on, learn how to turn these toxic thoughts and games around so everyone is a winner.

Are your children suffering?

Because of the contaminated communication between yourself and your ex, creating long term mental and emotional traumas and disorders.

When there are children involved, their welfare becomes critical as they experience the warfare happening between their parents. This can have long lasting detrimental psychological effects. The children have not asked for this to happen – so why are you making them suffer for your bad choices?

Create and become excellent role models for your children, so they do not have to experience the same treatment later on in their own lives. Carefully recreate clear communication, reassure them that there is respect for their other parent, that it was a decision between you and your partner and that they will always be special in your life.

Was there infidelity?

If there has been a case of infidelity in the marriage, trust becomes a big issue. So much so that ‘all males’ or ‘all females’ are bad and when this is taken into every day life, mistrust occurs on a regular basis. This creates fear, anxiety and depression. This also gets taken into the workplace, work becomes unproductive and everyone suffers. Not a good place to be.

Build your sense of power and create a new strong person with a healthy sense of self worth, creating your own safe and rewarding ‘power zone’ . Discover the wonderful true authentic self you were born to be. Access your own personal genius inside you.

Forgiveness is vital

It is not always easy to accept that you will forgive. Forgiveness is not about giving the other person anything – forgiveness is about freeing yourself from the hurt, resentment, etc. you have imprisoned yourself in.

To refuse to forgive is to continue hurting yourself.

Keeping ‘Inner Monsters’ as a part of you  requires negative, self destructive energy.

Use your energy to forgive and embrace the joys of life.

Forgiveness is the only real prescription for the pain you feel over someone else’s behaviour.

The healing choice is yours to make.

Forgiveness is not something you do for someone else. It is something you do for yourself. Give Yourself the gift of forgiveness.